6 Tips To Deal With The Negative Comments That Come With Self Improvement
When we make positive changes and pursue self improvement, we sometimes attract negative comments from our friends and loved ones. It doesn’t matter if you start taking your fitness seriously, starting a business, or implementing the charisma tips you see on this channel, whenever you start to grow there are inevitably people who would like to see you stay the same
In this video I want to teach you how to deal with negative comments and hopefully turn that negativity to positivity. There are 6 tips I cover which are
1. Use the toddler technique
2. Purposely misinterpret passive aggressive questions
3. Answer their questions with vulnerability
4. Use the 1 sentence rebuttal
5. Don’t recruit; live it
6. Find one other person
Those 6 things have been a huge help in removing negativity from my own life. I hope you find them helpful in removing negative comments and negative friends from yours.
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You don’t have to go to college and pay thousands of dollars to learn about philosophy.
Trent Kelly you could say the same about any subject really
Greg Smith agreed
When people say something like “I could never do that” I normally reply with “You should believe in yourself more” and I pose it as a serious statement. Or I’ll follow up with “I can help you overcome that weakness, if you would like help”
I always like to be a little more blunt when someone is attempting to be rude, I see it as “enough about me let’s focus on your inabilities”
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Julian Pleyer btw I own a philosophy store
Julian Pleyer it’s called phill pholosify
Julian Pleyer Agree this was so helpful and i subscribed. 🙂
Yes, tomorrow you will go to school and you won’t feel like a looser.
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ANARCHIST all right, we get it your gay.
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Hey I’m gonna call out special facial features on stuff alright/
Great advice for sound engineers. It’s hard to work in a stressful environment and then have someone throw a negative comment in the mix. It’s taken years to learn how not to over react. Thanks!
It doesn’t matter how you react to a negative comment so long as you walk away satisfied with yourself and so long as you keep from getting arrested.
3:14 In your example for ‘purposely misinterpreting passive aggressive questions’, you answered ‘No, I don’t think that is a good idea’ to the question ‘What are you going to do, open a philosophy store?’
This response seems rather negative, or even passive aggressive as well. Is that really the best way to address a passive aggressive question? Since you are a philosophy student, I’m sure you’re quite familiar with epistemology. Could it be better to take an epistemological approach, for example, in response to the question ‘What are you going to do, open a philosophy store?’ perhaps saying ‘Do you think I should open a philosophy store?’
This response is similar to your approach in that it takes their question literally, but is not a negative response. How do you think someone would respond to that question? @Charlie, I’m curious your thoughts on this approach.
Do you think “Do you think I should open a philosophy store?” will not be interpreted as passively aggressive?
In what way do you think “Do you think I should open a philosophy store?” is passive aggressive question?
+Brett Balsam Well, it just seems like a very serious question which requires an answer, and not a way to quickly dismiss negativity. I’m not saying it’s a horrible way to handle it however, just not better than what he recommends.
+H. Franzén The main reason I brought this up is that he is suggesting dismissing a negative comment with a cold shoulder, which I interpret as dismissing negativity with negativity. When someone asks “What are you going to do, open a philosophy store?”, while it may be interpreted as negativity, the individual making the statement is likely just teasing. Giving a cold shoulder, or the silent treatment is passive aggressive behavior which I do not feel is appropriate.
I thought his response was great and I would never see it as passive aggressive, but your reply is also very well-put; particularly because it is a question which begs an answer, which gets them to consider the way they’re talking to you, while his method seems more revolved on quickly dismissing it. There’s definitely appeal in both your responses and I appreciate you sharing your idea.
“I studied philosophy.”
omg…I had to deal with a negative comment. The person I was talking to, said actually what you said in your video. “That why I will never do that!” then they gave that little “I am better than you laugh” My brain was like..say it say it say it!!!!…. I very politely said… “That is why we are different.” (could remember actually what you said..dang) And let the awkward silence linger. They had no come back, no laughing no nothing….. then was so nice afterwards…. THANK YOUUUUUUUU!!!!!
You should cover your biceps. I can’t take my eyes off them.
+Jelena Gross Highest obesity rate in the world BB
+Sai Bliss shut them up
What if that is a charism tip?
Is that sexual harassment?
is that what you mean when you said that to him ?
Try going vegan… probably the most ethical thing one can do and yet the backlash is insane!
+Guy Incognito Well you’re the ignorant one then. I do see the bigger picture of destruction of the planet. In our global society it is easier to change your way of eating than changing anything else…
+SomeSayApple So everyone needs to change their eating habits because of YOUR conciseness? Quite frankly I rather see he end of sports(figure out how much they eat), business, cheaply made products, hairs dyes, makeup etc etc…but hey you think focusing on one issue that you have been brainwashed to believe in is the cause is going to save the planet. Of course you wont change your ways until it is too late. If you don’t think business in general is the problem and say It can;t be changed and just focus on the meat than I have no time for you..take care, BTW having a mince pork roast this evening.
Leave him alone. He’s obviously triggered by the unwelcome possibility of making real sacrifice in his life for the betterment of everyone and the entire Planet so relies on pathetic diversionary arguments to defend his ego.
I wish I found this video earlier, but I’m glad I did!
Great content and I’ll definitely subcribe!
Excellent video! This will help with talking to ignorant family and coworkers
Had to watch this again it was so good
+surfvegan Same here =)
Would like to see, unless you already have, a few tips on how to say no. Specifically to someone you love.
+charismaoncommand Please would you do for this part. Usually difficult to deal with, atleast on my side.
Wow, you lived in Brasil? Então você fala português? =D
+Gonginah of the egrograsian brotherhood You can’t just ask people why they are white 😂😂
+Gonginah of the egrograsian brotherhood I know what you mean. I burn even in the winter sometimes and envy the beautiful poop people.
+Gustavo fernandes I am from the SOUTH. I am a descendant Of germans and italians. santa Catarina rocks.
The one thing I can’t stand out of all these is the passive aggressive attacks. I wish people would just be direct. My ex, boss, and other family members would do this all the time. I’ll try being literal next time and see what their reaction is.
+Calm Banana Tell me how it went, I am really interested in how the people you know react to it.
I have had so many different reactions from people, it is amazing: Some where just confused, others offended and then again others really valued me being more direct to them.
But out of all, respect was the one thing that came back to me the most. It also feels really good to meet people who do not wear this ‘everyday smile fit-into-society’ mask.
You should do an analysis on the Birdman interview with Breakfast club. Put some respek on it and like if you agree.
He can talk about what not to do when you want confront somebody in a serious matter without looking like a baby.
Dj akademiks already did this
+Big Ray L
+Jeb Kush Merely mentioning his name brings the Ls! Please don’t punish me with your harsh Ls. Every L i hold is another cut on my wrist.
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7. Carry your strongest Pokemon cards with you. They will cower in fear.
+Jeb Kush If you have a holographic charzard they will fear you, then love you, and then fear how much they love you.
+Calm Banana it has to be first edition
Just throw a Abra card on the ground and when they go to pick it up, make your escape away, like Abra
Jeb Kush 😂😂😂
I just discovered your channel today through your GOT video about Power and I’ve already watched half of your videos.
You managed to get a lot of subscribers with not that many total views, a very good ratio, keep it up and this channel will become big! 🙂
+Remus That’s awesome! Glad to hear that the non-GoT videos are getting some love too 🙂
My personal advice is to not show people that you are improving yourself. Hide it, don’t flaunt it. Let them wallow at the bottom of the crab bucket as you covertly become stronger on all dimensions. This makes your success look natural and accidental, leading to less envy and jealousy. Why? Because people will attribute their failures to misfortune if they think you just “got lucky”. On the other hand, if they witnessed all the effort that you put into your transformation, they will be harshly reminded that their own shortcomings are actually their own fault. This, I believe, is what will create vitriol that could have been avoided. Let me know what you think, would love to hear your thoughts on this, even though in your case due to your exposure your friends and family are well aware of your self improvement path.
+DanyHeatley I think you mean don’t SHOW-off, if people are genuinely interested, sure tell them about your path, try to teach them something, you may learn something from them as well. I believe your approach is perfect for just about every peasant (90% of people that is). However, do it because you don’t want to deal with their negativity, not because you can’t handle a little envy and jealousy. Literally f*ck what they think, they’re not in your league brother.
+DanyHeatley I agree with this completely. To add to this, I think people will be more likely to accept the new you if it seems like a natural transformation. If they know you are putting so much effort into changing yourself, they may think you are “trying to be someone you’re not.” In reality, everyone is changing all the time, so why not make an effort to change in positive ways?
+Joe Maule Spot on, “48 Laws of Power” elaborates a great deal on this specific subject. I recommend for anyone wondering what you are exactly talking about; google for a summary and look into law 3,4,8,9 and mainly law 30 regarding this subject 🙂
this is genius! I actually do so myself, telling very few people the full extent of my quest for self improvement. it sucks, because like he said, I feel so alone, and no one really realizes how far I’ve come except for myself. but then people like me more, or recently my mom made a comment to me about how much better I’ve become, and it feels so great. aside from the fact that actual results feel so much better than talking about it, and that talking about it makes me feel all vain and boastful